I just sat through an excruciatingly ego-driven business meeting, aghast at the way someone senior addressed his team. (I won’t name names, but like Carly Simon says you probably think this is about you, don’t you!) It was clear the boss wanted to be proven right, even to the detriment of the project. I came away thinking what poor leadership he demonstrated as his people fell into line and on their swords.
I vividly remember the day years ago when a friend told me, pointedly, I didn’t have to be right all the time; I could just say I didn’t know, didn’t have an answer or had made a mistake – and learn from it. It was revelatory, having just come from a government role where heads would roll just for faltering. A renowned speaker also said we can be right all the time or we can be happy!
Maybe you or someone you know is a “right fighter” spending energy on insisting they are right all the time and ever ready to fight you for it. Admitting when you’re wrong allows for review and making change. It’s also human and allows others to see you are big enough to admit your mistakes so they can too. I simply find it freeing to not have to be right or certain at all times but open to possibilities.